Claire Coto lives at the Oaks at Fort Hudson, an apartment complex, while husband John Coto lives at the nursing home next door. The arrangement allows them to spend their days and evenings together, while providing John with the care he needed that his wife could not provide — such as lifting him after falls. Both say they were scared, the first day, but that they are now much happier than they were before moving into Fort Hudson. “We’re apart but together,” Claire Coto said. This dining room was completely renovated recently, to give residents more space. Now there are columns and wide windows to create an airy atmosphere in what used to be a cramped room. Betty Wadleigh and her son, Glenn, pose before Wadleigh goes to the adult day care program at Fort Hudson. On her first day of day care, all of her children came along and waited in a room to make sure she felt comfortable, while she feared being “dumped” forever at the nursing home. But she loved it and now has made many friends. Warren Sholes lives at Fort Hudson’s apartment complex, the Oaks. He moved in with his wife, Jackie, so that she could get easy access to the care she needed bef...